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The missus just told me she's pregnant.

She came in before and told me she'd been to see a doctor and had this look on her face I couldn't figure out, I really thought she was about to give me bad news of the worst kind then she told me she's pregnant. I just went from having the worst possible feeling to the biggest high of my life in an instant. This will be our first child, we're both ecstatic but stunned at the same time.

We've decided not to tell anyone for a day or two yet because we need to let ourselves take it all in first. Although I'm over the moon I'm not looking forward to the attention it's going to bring from both our families. Really can't think straight at the moment, I feel I should be celebrating but we're kind of stunned if you know what I mean, our minds are overloaded with it all.
 
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Thanks all. I made an error a few posts back where I said I told the community midwife to **** off. Actually meant to say community care worker.

The crap that came out of her mouth was astonishingly offensive to me, when she got to the bit about us needing a fireguard in front of the fire I kicked her out. She wasn't even invited round, she just turned up and began rambling on to the missus about how they like you to look after your child, very condescending at times and all the while with her back turned to me.

Asking if either of us had any alcohol or drug problems too while ticking boxes on her paperwork. I was absolutely furious at her and she probably noted that down too.
 
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Correction again sorry; 'health visitor'.
 
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tell you now, all this rubbish about how to bring a child up by following what is written on a piece of paper is rubbish. its all to do with natural instincts and common sense. I had whiskey rubbed in my gums as a youngster and turn out fine (just) but mention that to the health visitor and i bet you get a red mark on her bit of paper. We had friends who refused to buy baby monitors as they didnt want to be at the babies beck and call once it had gone to bed they would regularly check on him of course. The manufacturers should provide instructions for everything man made and you and your missus are that manufacturer ;)
 
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Health visitor came to my house after Indy was born. There was a smashed up zafira on the driveway.

She asked. Was the baby in the car when it crashed.

I felt like saying, we crashed because the baby was driving!!

The answer is no by the way lol
 
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Congrats keefy. Its best life experience ever and enjoy and cherish every minute because you will look back on their early years with the biggest of smiles and tears. Mine are 19 & 15 now and i do miss the early years they are the best years.
 
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About to get my head down for a few hours before we have to be at the hospital for 8:30am. We won't be leaving until the baby is born so I'm hoping it'll be here by the end of today. Still don't know if it's a boy or a girl but we agreed long ago on names which we've kept secret from the family.

Mother-in-law will be with us throughout which for some might seem a nightmare but we get on great.

Forgive me if next time I post it sounds like drunken babble - and cheers for all the great advice and kind words, it's all been taken in. ;)
 
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Good luck Keefy!

Praying for a speedy problem free delivery! Enjoy the moment, it really is special!

Much love & best wishes to you all!
 
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Ah mate excellent.

Best of luck. Hopefully it's quick and uncomplicated.

You'll be crying like a big girls blouse in no time!!
 
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Baby isn't here yet.

Just got home after being there all day. The missus is having regular pains and her waters have begun flowing but not full on enough to be moved to the labour ward. Bit pee'd off at the way fathers are treated to be honest, they never seem to look you in the eye or even involve you when explaining the whole process of the lead up to giving birth.

It's her first child and she's been in a lot of pain since early afternoon, I'm the one who's given her a bath twice today to help her relax plus I'm the one who's been reattaching the monitor things onto her stomach and resetting that monitor itself which she's been hooked up to on and off all day - we've hardly seen the staff. The restaurant in the hospital closed early as did Costa Coffee and WHSmith wasn't open at all but when they came round with the tea trolley the fathers didn't even get offered one. This is just a for bed ward and two of those were vacated by the afternoon. Surely they could spare a cup of tea?

I did manage to get a breakfast down me this morning and ate sandwiches I'd prepared at home but just being there in support of your missus can be a very tiring ordeal in itself.

When it got to around 11:20pm they told me they don't allow partners to stay overnight which is contrary to what we'd been led to believe. A relative of ours is the Patient Experience Manager at the hospital and will hear about our experience in the morning.

The thing I'm trying to say is that a child has two parents and both should be treated with respect and be kept well informed as a couple from beginning to end. I'm sure it's a management issue and not down to individual nurses and midwives who work there but to be almost totally blanked by staff as if you're somehow a burden to them is not on.

Rant over but I'll let you fine gentlemen know as soon as possible when the little one has finally arrived. Cheers again and I hope you all enjoyed a Boxing Day bevvy today. ;)
 
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So sorry to hear of your experience mate, sounds like appalling care. Most wards will have a tea making station, ask and if not choose the ugliest nurse and chat her up, make her feel special.
Rooting for you here mate.
Simon
 
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Keep calm Keefy. You're tired, emotional, stressed and frustrated. I was the same when Freddie was about to be born. Marching up and down like a bear with a sore head because I didn't think the midwives were doing enough and to be honest most of the time I couldn't find a midwife!
But when they were called upon, when the moment came, they were there and they did an amazing job. They work ridiculous hours for a pittance.
And when it's all done everything that happens in the lead up to it is forgotten in an instance. It's worth it Keefy, bite your tounge and stay calm!

good luck mate and remember.... Ay ay calm down calm down!
 
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