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Thanks, already told the community midwife to **** off, interfering cow, the baby is ours not the state's.
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Thanks, already told the community midwife to **** off, interfering cow, the baby is ours not the state's.
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TBServices
It's true. People will do your nut in with crap advice. Don't listen. Even the health workers etc, they don't know you, or your baby, and their advice is always contradictory. Last years "rules" are totally different to this years - it's all rubbish.
Don't be upset if your birth doesn't go to plan, its one of those things that women over think and get all uppity about - it means nothing once you're back at home. Take a couple of pillows to hospital, one for your head and one for your arse.
Finally, ENJOY. I won't tell you it's hard, or how little you'll sleep, cos tbh, I've never found it hard and I've had about 10 sleepless nights in the past 11 months. She fills me with joy and happiness i never knew existed every time I see her little face smile, or she learns something new, or she cuddles into me. It's the best feeling ever.
Congratulations dude.
Don't be upset if your birth doesn't go to plan, its one of those things that women over think and get all uppity about - it means nothing once you're back at home. Take a couple of pillows to hospital, one for your head and one for your arse.
Finally, ENJOY. I won't tell you it's hard, or how little you'll sleep, cos tbh, I've never found it hard and I've had about 10 sleepless nights in the past 11 months. She fills me with joy and happiness i never knew existed every time I see her little face smile, or she learns something new, or she cuddles into me. It's the best feeling ever.
Congratulations dude.
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Kyle87
What happens in this thread stays in this thread yeah!!
I've got a hard man reputation to protect!!
I've got a hard man reputation to protect!!
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Cheers mate and that ^ sounds like good advice.
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Don't consider myself particularly hard, 8 or 9 months ago maybe...What happens in this thread stays in this thread yeah!!
I've got a hard man reputation to protect!!
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TBServices
It is. She'll get treated like some terrifying demonic ruler, and you're the **** on her shoe. You get NOTHING, except a ludicrously uncomfortable chair.
*disclaimer* not all hospitals included in this sweeping generalisation.
My son was born on 23rd of Dec last year and my wife has the 25th as her birthday. Believe me the 1 present thing doesnt fly. Congrats Keefy. My life certainly changed when my son arrived. Lots will change but given the joy I feel when im with my boy it is all worth it.
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It's not only the crap advice that you get it's also the books that tell you how to do it to. As has been said you can read but your bairn can't!
Also then there's the competiveness of other people telling you that there one is do this and that, so what each bairns different and will do it at there own pace, don't worry about that.
enjoy the time with the wee one when it arrives, it is a special time.
Also then there's the competiveness of other people telling you that there one is do this and that, so what each bairns different and will do it at there own pace, don't worry about that.
enjoy the time with the wee one when it arrives, it is a special time.
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Masood
Best of luck mate, and enjoy every minute of it. Being a dad is the biggest adventure you'll ever have!
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Gray0689
Can't say it any better than that
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congrats pal
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Thanks all. I made an error a few posts back where I said I told the community midwife to **** off. Actually meant to say community care worker.
The crap that came out of her mouth was astonishingly offensive to me, when she got to the bit about us needing a fireguard in front of the fire I kicked her out. She wasn't even invited round, she just turned up and began rambling on to the missus about how they like you to look after your child, very condescending at times and all the while with her back turned to me.
Asking if either of us had any alcohol or drug problems too while ticking boxes on her paperwork. I was absolutely furious at her and she probably noted that down too.
The crap that came out of her mouth was astonishingly offensive to me, when she got to the bit about us needing a fireguard in front of the fire I kicked her out. She wasn't even invited round, she just turned up and began rambling on to the missus about how they like you to look after your child, very condescending at times and all the while with her back turned to me.
Asking if either of us had any alcohol or drug problems too while ticking boxes on her paperwork. I was absolutely furious at her and she probably noted that down too.
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tell you now, all this rubbish about how to bring a child up by following what is written on a piece of paper is rubbish. its all to do with natural instincts and common sense. I had whiskey rubbed in my gums as a youngster and turn out fine (just) but mention that to the health visitor and i bet you get a red mark on her bit of paper. We had friends who refused to buy baby monitors as they didnt want to be at the babies beck and call once it had gone to bed they would regularly check on him of course. The manufacturers should provide instructions for everything man made and you and your missus are that manufacturer
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Congrats, get sleep now is my advice.
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Kyle87
Health visitor came to my house after Indy was born. There was a smashed up zafira on the driveway.
She asked. Was the baby in the car when it crashed.
I felt like saying, we crashed because the baby was driving!!
The answer is no by the way lol
She asked. Was the baby in the car when it crashed.
I felt like saying, we crashed because the baby was driving!!
The answer is no by the way lol
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sorry i missed this earlier ,congratulations ,now is when you start turning into your dad
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Ray Stafford
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julesverne
Congrats keefy. Its best life experience ever and enjoy and cherish every minute because you will look back on their early years with the biggest of smiles and tears. Mine are 19 & 15 now and i do miss the early years they are the best years.
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That won't fly mate my kids have got the same birthday dreading parties from now on
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julesverne
the best bit is dad dancing
I take great pride in embarassing my kids when i hit the dance floor at weddings etc
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About to get my head down for a few hours before we have to be at the hospital for 8:30am. We won't be leaving until the baby is born so I'm hoping it'll be here by the end of today. Still don't know if it's a boy or a girl but we agreed long ago on names which we've kept secret from the family.
Mother-in-law will be with us throughout which for some might seem a nightmare but we get on great.
Forgive me if next time I post it sounds like drunken babble - and cheers for all the great advice and kind words, it's all been taken in.
Mother-in-law will be with us throughout which for some might seem a nightmare but we get on great.
Forgive me if next time I post it sounds like drunken babble - and cheers for all the great advice and kind words, it's all been taken in.
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Rickster123
Good luck Keefy! I've got the beers on ice in anticipation!
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TomLane
Good luck Keefy!
Praying for a speedy problem free delivery! Enjoy the moment, it really is special!
Much love & best wishes to you all!
Praying for a speedy problem free delivery! Enjoy the moment, it really is special!
Much love & best wishes to you all!
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Rickster123
Oh and DON'T LOOK DOWN!!! It's brutal!
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julesverne
Good luck mate
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Kyle87
Ah mate excellent.
Best of luck. Hopefully it's quick and uncomplicated.
You'll be crying like a big girls blouse in no time!!
Best of luck. Hopefully it's quick and uncomplicated.
You'll be crying like a big girls blouse in no time!!
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Ray Stafford
Good luck to you and Mrs K.
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Dotty
I'm looking forward to the blubbering wreck of a post!
Good luck to Mrs Keefy and you. Try not to faint xx
Good luck to Mrs Keefy and you. Try not to faint xx
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Ermintrude
Good luck.
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Bunker
Just picked up on this! All the best for yours mate!!!
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dont do what my mate did, when she asked is the baby all right?
dont say "yes the babies fine but yer fannies fecked"
dont say "yes the babies fine but yer fannies fecked"
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Baby isn't here yet.
Just got home after being there all day. The missus is having regular pains and her waters have begun flowing but not full on enough to be moved to the labour ward. Bit pee'd off at the way fathers are treated to be honest, they never seem to look you in the eye or even involve you when explaining the whole process of the lead up to giving birth.
It's her first child and she's been in a lot of pain since early afternoon, I'm the one who's given her a bath twice today to help her relax plus I'm the one who's been reattaching the monitor things onto her stomach and resetting that monitor itself which she's been hooked up to on and off all day - we've hardly seen the staff. The restaurant in the hospital closed early as did Costa Coffee and WHSmith wasn't open at all but when they came round with the tea trolley the fathers didn't even get offered one. This is just a for bed ward and two of those were vacated by the afternoon. Surely they could spare a cup of tea?
I did manage to get a breakfast down me this morning and ate sandwiches I'd prepared at home but just being there in support of your missus can be a very tiring ordeal in itself.
When it got to around 11:20pm they told me they don't allow partners to stay overnight which is contrary to what we'd been led to believe. A relative of ours is the Patient Experience Manager at the hospital and will hear about our experience in the morning.
The thing I'm trying to say is that a child has two parents and both should be treated with respect and be kept well informed as a couple from beginning to end. I'm sure it's a management issue and not down to individual nurses and midwives who work there but to be almost totally blanked by staff as if you're somehow a burden to them is not on.
Rant over but I'll let you fine gentlemen know as soon as possible when the little one has finally arrived. Cheers again and I hope you all enjoyed a Boxing Day bevvy today.
Just got home after being there all day. The missus is having regular pains and her waters have begun flowing but not full on enough to be moved to the labour ward. Bit pee'd off at the way fathers are treated to be honest, they never seem to look you in the eye or even involve you when explaining the whole process of the lead up to giving birth.
It's her first child and she's been in a lot of pain since early afternoon, I'm the one who's given her a bath twice today to help her relax plus I'm the one who's been reattaching the monitor things onto her stomach and resetting that monitor itself which she's been hooked up to on and off all day - we've hardly seen the staff. The restaurant in the hospital closed early as did Costa Coffee and WHSmith wasn't open at all but when they came round with the tea trolley the fathers didn't even get offered one. This is just a for bed ward and two of those were vacated by the afternoon. Surely they could spare a cup of tea?
I did manage to get a breakfast down me this morning and ate sandwiches I'd prepared at home but just being there in support of your missus can be a very tiring ordeal in itself.
When it got to around 11:20pm they told me they don't allow partners to stay overnight which is contrary to what we'd been led to believe. A relative of ours is the Patient Experience Manager at the hospital and will hear about our experience in the morning.
The thing I'm trying to say is that a child has two parents and both should be treated with respect and be kept well informed as a couple from beginning to end. I'm sure it's a management issue and not down to individual nurses and midwives who work there but to be almost totally blanked by staff as if you're somehow a burden to them is not on.
Rant over but I'll let you fine gentlemen know as soon as possible when the little one has finally arrived. Cheers again and I hope you all enjoyed a Boxing Day bevvy today.
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Bunker
So sorry to hear of your experience mate, sounds like appalling care. Most wards will have a tea making station, ask and if not choose the ugliest nurse and chat her up, make her feel special.
Rooting for you here mate.
Simon
Rooting for you here mate.
Simon
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Rickster123
Keep calm Keefy. You're tired, emotional, stressed and frustrated. I was the same when Freddie was about to be born. Marching up and down like a bear with a sore head because I didn't think the midwives were doing enough and to be honest most of the time I couldn't find a midwife!
But when they were called upon, when the moment came, they were there and they did an amazing job. They work ridiculous hours for a pittance.
And when it's all done everything that happens in the lead up to it is forgotten in an instance. It's worth it Keefy, bite your tounge and stay calm!
good luck mate and remember.... Ay ay calm down calm down!
But when they were called upon, when the moment came, they were there and they did an amazing job. They work ridiculous hours for a pittance.
And when it's all done everything that happens in the lead up to it is forgotten in an instance. It's worth it Keefy, bite your tounge and stay calm!
good luck mate and remember.... Ay ay calm down calm down!
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Dotty
I agree with Simon and Adam mate.
But at the the same time it's better you come and vent at us than the nurses. They probably want to act in your best interests too but red tape imposed by a faceless beancounter won't let them.
Get back to Mrs Keefy and enjoy your new baby.
And them come and tell us so we can all go soppy!
But at the the same time it's better you come and vent at us than the nurses. They probably want to act in your best interests too but red tape imposed by a faceless beancounter won't let them.
Get back to Mrs Keefy and enjoy your new baby.
And them come and tell us so we can all go soppy!
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Dotty
How was your first sleepless night Si?
Baby isn't here yet.
Just got home after being there all day. The missus is having regular pains and her waters have begun flowing but not full on enough to be moved to the labour ward. Bit pee'd off at the way fathers are treated to be honest, they never seem to look you in the eye or even involve you when explaining the whole process of the lead up to giving birth.
It's her first child and she's been in a lot of pain since early afternoon, I'm the one who's given her a bath twice today to help her relax plus I'm the one who's been reattaching the monitor things onto her stomach and resetting that monitor itself which she's been hooked up to on and off all day - we've hardly seen the staff. The restaurant in the hospital closed early as did Costa Coffee and WHSmith wasn't open at all but when they came round with the tea trolley the fathers didn't even get offered one. This is just a for bed ward and two of those were vacated by the afternoon. Surely they could spare a cup of tea?
I did manage to get a breakfast down me this morning and ate sandwiches I'd prepared at home but just being there in support of your missus can be a very tiring ordeal in itself.
When it got to around 11:20pm they told me they don't allow partners to stay overnight which is contrary to what we'd been led to believe. A relative of ours is the Patient Experience Manager at the hospital and will hear about our experience in the morning.
The thing I'm trying to say is that a child has two parents and both should be treated with respect and be kept well informed as a couple from beginning to end. I'm sure it's a management issue and not down to individual nurses and midwives who work there but to be almost totally blanked by staff as if you're somehow a burden to them is not on.
Rant over but I'll let you fine gentlemen know as soon as possible when the little one has finally arrived. Cheers again and I hope you all enjoyed a Boxing Day bevvy today.
You in the women's mate?
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They are over worked under paid and stretched to their limits. You are stressed to death and wanting everything to go smoothly for your wife. Unfortunately the person you want to be grabbing by the hairy bits is probably off for a fortnight.
Not easy but try and stay relaxed. I had it easy, the wife had 3 c sections. After the first we even got to pick the date.
Hope things go smoother for you today.
Not easy but try and stay relaxed. I had it easy, the wife had 3 c sections. After the first we even got to pick the date.
Hope things go smoother for you today.
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Gray0689
No patter of tiny feet yet
Hope all is going well mate
Hope all is going well mate
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lame plumber
Funny but by your third youll know what to do Keefy, hope it all goes well for both of you
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No, heard too many nightmare stories from that place, one being my sister who now has irreparable damage to her muscles underneath if you know what I mean - due to negligence. We're in Whiston Hospital mate and nope, still no sign of the little one but it'll happen very soon I'm sure.
These latest replies and comments and have cheered me up a little though, my miserable gob even cracked a few smiles while reading them.
Thanks all!
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If you're prediction is accurate I promise to send you a "Thank You" gift!
Tell you what, let's turn this into a little game [of sorts] - Anyone who can guess the time of birth, sex, weight and name of the baby (or nearest) will receive an inexpensive 'Thank You' gift from myself, the missus and the baby. Chalked's entry has beeen noted - just add a name!
GO!
Clue: If it's a boy we're not calling him Hugh Janus!
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If you're prediction is accurate I promise to send you a "Thank You" gift!
Tell you what, let's turn this into a little game [of sorts] - Anyone who can guess the time of birth, sex, weight and name of the baby (or nearest) will receive an inexpensive 'Thank You' gift from myself, the missus and the baby. Chalked's entry has beeen noted - just add a name!
GO!
Clue: If it's a boy we're not calling him Hugh Janus!
My dad tried calling me wayne.........
in expensive gift is going to be a nappy right?
cant we name the baby, ?
i bet its going to be 3 am tomorrow! Oh, and you have to give he or she the middle name pigeon...
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