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Hi all,
Just wondered if any of you could offer me some assistance with the great problem to us men that is women..
So me and her were together for a year and a half and split up several months ago. My dad got quite ill and was touch and go and instead of trying to let her support me through it I pushed her out. Ended up ending things saying it was better for her etc. The things we all say.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago we started speaking again. Ended up meeting up a few times and sleeping together (probably a silly idea). Well the past few months I have been thinking about the whole relationship and where things went wrong etc and how we could improve if we had another chance. We have spoke about all of this and decided to take things slow. Sort of start again and draw a line under everything so to speak. She says she needs time to trust me again and doesnt want to get in a relationship straight away until she knows I wont leave her again. I completely understand this and accept that it will take time. In my oppinion she is worth it. I love the girl to bits.
Now heres the hard part. She says she wants to take things slow so I have told her balls entirely in her court (we are exclusive to each other though!). But we have seen quite a lot of each other over the past few weeks. Just doing fun things going on walks, for dinner etc. Stuff which we stopped doing before we split. Anyway i ended up staying at hers sat night. We had a great evening but then in the morning she told me shes not sure what she wants. One minute she tells me she loves me and knows we can sort it out and be stonger for it, then the next she says that she has got stronger without me and isnt sure if she wants a relationship etc.
So atm I am sort of in a limbo. I really want this girl and understand it will take time but I have been wondering whether she is going to come round or if my efforts will prove futile. She says she doesnt want anyone else but isnt sure if she wants to or CAN get back with me. I guess I just dont want to be made to look like a mug... And put all my energy into this for nothing.
Has anyone got any tips or successfully won their girl back? Im trying my best but not sure what else I can do.
Thanks for reading and hope you can help guys (and girls!)
:blush5:
Just wondered if any of you could offer me some assistance with the great problem to us men that is women..
So me and her were together for a year and a half and split up several months ago. My dad got quite ill and was touch and go and instead of trying to let her support me through it I pushed her out. Ended up ending things saying it was better for her etc. The things we all say.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago we started speaking again. Ended up meeting up a few times and sleeping together (probably a silly idea). Well the past few months I have been thinking about the whole relationship and where things went wrong etc and how we could improve if we had another chance. We have spoke about all of this and decided to take things slow. Sort of start again and draw a line under everything so to speak. She says she needs time to trust me again and doesnt want to get in a relationship straight away until she knows I wont leave her again. I completely understand this and accept that it will take time. In my oppinion she is worth it. I love the girl to bits.
Now heres the hard part. She says she wants to take things slow so I have told her balls entirely in her court (we are exclusive to each other though!). But we have seen quite a lot of each other over the past few weeks. Just doing fun things going on walks, for dinner etc. Stuff which we stopped doing before we split. Anyway i ended up staying at hers sat night. We had a great evening but then in the morning she told me shes not sure what she wants. One minute she tells me she loves me and knows we can sort it out and be stonger for it, then the next she says that she has got stronger without me and isnt sure if she wants a relationship etc.
So atm I am sort of in a limbo. I really want this girl and understand it will take time but I have been wondering whether she is going to come round or if my efforts will prove futile. She says she doesnt want anyone else but isnt sure if she wants to or CAN get back with me. I guess I just dont want to be made to look like a mug... And put all my energy into this for nothing.
Has anyone got any tips or successfully won their girl back? Im trying my best but not sure what else I can do.
Thanks for reading and hope you can help guys (and girls!)
:blush5:
